Author: Pammy Godoy

Married. For All The Right Reasons.

Married. For All The Right Reasons.

The photo on the left was taken in April 1992. I just turned 18 and I recently gave birth to my eldest son. I was wearing a dress borrowed from a friend. I was waiting for our names to be called by the Office of the Mayor. I was about to get married to the father of my son.

The photo on the right was taken in December 2015. It was the day I got married to the right man and for all the right reasons. 

So many things transpired between these two life-changing events that happened 23 years, 8 months, and 26 days apart.

Preggy at 10. Mommy at 11.

I was deeply troubled when Pili’s Population Officer told me that in another municipality in Camarines Sur, a girl got pregnant at age 10 and she gave birth in September 2017 at age 11. The Population Officer added that girls these days are having their first period (menarche) very early. Based on the findings from the Young Adult Fertility and Sexuality Study (2013), more than 1 in 10 girls experienced menstruation before age 12.

Sophie

She finally relented to having sex with her boyfriend after months of verbal insistence (pangungulit) and emotional blackmail (e.g. if you really love me, you should give yourself to me). They did not use condom. Her boyfriend said that if she gets pregnant, he will take responsibility for her and their baby (pananagutan kita).

Solo Parents

Solo Parents

I was a solo parent for more than 20 years. It was both emotionally exhausting and financially formidable to provide love, care and financial support to my two sons. Solo parents need a strong support system to be able to manage their numerous responsibilities. Looking back, I wished I had a group of fellow single mothers that meet regularly so at least I didn’t feel as if I was going through the arduous journey alone.